Mars moves into the constellation Sagittarius this week and will remain there until October 26th. Mars has been called the God of War but we all know that Mars doesn’t start a war, Man does. Going through the aggressive sign of the Archer can set off some turmoil in people and locations born under a mutable sign (Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, Pisces) or of course anyone or place having a build up of planets in these signs.
Mars in Sagittarius is sure to bring some excitement adventure and new experiences into play. It tends to enforce greater directness and certainly plenty of action. Those who are opinionated and willing to do whatever it takes to convince others to follow suit will take the lead. Restriction is not something that bodes well while Mars passes through the opportunistic sign Sagittarius and can ignite aggressive response.
For the average Joe use this transit to get things done and to focus on doing your part to maintain a healthy community in which to live. Make a difference by taking action or you will have no right to complain.
DEAR EUGENIA: For the past three years, I’ve been convinced that I’m not meant to date anyone and that I’d never feel complete with someone. Recently, I have been sexually involved with a man who has a girlfriend, and they have a child together. Their relationship is on the rocks. We have known each other for almost a month. His birthday is June 5, 1986. We communicate all day long. He always calls to make sure that I’m OK and asks how I’m doing. We tell each other everything. We have told each other that we really care about each other.
His relationship with his child’s mother is very rocky, and they both agreed that they should split. When we are together, we can barely keep our eyes off each other. He asks others their opinion of our relationship, and everyone says that we should date. I know that his intentions are pure, and so are mine. I’ve never felt this way about another person. I feel so comfortable and complete with him. I just don’t know how to approach him with my feeling. I’m not saying that I love him, but I do have strong feelings. What should I do? — Pisces
DEAR PISCES: For starters, becoming intimate with someone who is still involved with someone else isn’t the best situation to be in. You are dealing with a Gemini man who likes, craves and needs variety in his life. He is a charmer, and although you do match up well emotionally, sorrow prevails. Whether the sorrow is brought on because eventually he will tire of you or decide he should never have left his girlfriend and child doesn’t matter. He falls in an area of your chart that deals with work and secret affairs, so either way, if you work with this man or you are just having an affair with him the road ahead looks difficult. I’m not saying it can’t work, but you also didn’t submit his wife and child’s birth data, so I cannot be specific about where that relationship actually stands.
Regarding your chart, there is every indication that love is on the rise until next spring. My suggestion to you is that you tell him to clear his baggage first, and when he is free and clear, you can move forward with your relationship. Until that time, I suggest you don’t waste the wonderful relationship opportunities that lie ahead.
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DEAR EUGENIA: My boyfriend and I have been together almost two years. We’ve had our bumps, but I thought we were happy for the most part. We live together and have a life together. He was born Oct. 14, 1988, around 10:40 a.m., and I was born Dec. 9, 1991, at 7:43 p.m. Recently, he told me he just doesn’t love me and is tired of taking care of me.
I’m heartbroken and still feel like we could work things out. I guess my question is, do we stand a chance? Or are we just completely incompatible?
And if we are incompatible, will I ever find a man who I AM compatible with? — Heartbroken Sag
DEAR HEARTBROKEN SAG: The astrological comparison is lacking on many levels and is riddled with deception. You can do better, and so can he. You are both still young and need time to explore and learn more about life before you settle down. He may be a Libra by Sun sign, but he has as much Sagittarius in his chart as you do, and in his case, it influenced how he feels about relationships and handles them. He needs freedom and space and the ability to explore his options.
Take this as an opportunity to meet new people and to socialize and participate in interests. It’s quite possible that your man just got bored with the routine the two of you slipped into. Keep that in mind, and don’t let it happen in the future. A relationship is about equality and enjoying things together as a couple. When one person feels they are doing all the work, it’s difficult to not lose respect and desire to be with that person.
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DEAR EUGENIA: I am a 21-year-old Scorpio/Sagittarius. I was born Nov. 22, 1992, at 1:07 a.m. I have had a LOT of bad relationships with different people in my life, from parents to grandparents. I have a boyfriend, and I have been with him for four years. His birthday is May 28, 1992. I have problems with his family.
Do we have a bright future ahead of us? I recently found out that he was lying and cheating. I thought he was the only person who I could trust until he let me down. We have two kids together. I need advice. — Scorned Scorpio
DEAR SCORNED SCORPIO: Trust issues at an emotional level show up clearly in your astrological comparison, along with a lack of favorable connections between your natal planets.
You may be a Sagittarius by Sun sign, but when it comes to the way you think and feel, you are definitely a Scorpio; when it comes to love, you are far more like a Capricorn. Your boyfriend, on the other hand, loves and thinks like his sign Gemini and is deceptive when it comes to emotional matters and relationships. He falls in an area of your chart that deals with how well you get along with relatives and tends to be more of a teacher or learning experience for you than a long-time partner.
Getting along with friends, siblings and relatives can be difficult for you, regardless of who you are with due to the setup in your natal chart. It takes more patience, tolerance and compromise on your part if you want to avoid disputes; however, that doesn’t mean you should let anyone take advantage of you. You cannot pick family, but you can choose your friends. Having one or two good friends can be sufficient and work better for you than trying to please too many people.
You match up best to the signs Aries, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. Note that Gemini is not on the list.
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